Stop the Friendly Fire
I don’t know about you, but I am tired of losing skirmishes with the enemy because of casualties taken by “friendly fire.” See, we already know that the battle belongs to the Lord. However, you and I, as believers and followers of Jesus are to wage skirmishes with the enemy while we are here on earth. We aren’t fighting for land or freedom or earthly treasures, but rather for souls. Having spent almost four years in a military community, I can tell you that the worse result for a family is that their loved one is injured or killed by friendly fire. The term “friendly fire” is used to identify an injury or death on the battlefield that was caused by his or her own comrades. If you are familiar with the Pat Tillman story (NFL player who joined after 9/11 in order to serve his country and then lost his life to friendly fire), there is a reason that the Army was so slow and tried to hide the details of his death. The reason is that there is nothing worse. Being wounded or killed by an enemy combatant on the battlefield is heroic. It represents all that is good about our military over the years as it has fought for freedom and our ideals throughout the world. However, when an accident occurs and someone misfires and takes out one of his or her own, this is a tragedy.
Yet, somehow, we don’t recognize the immense amounts of tragedies that are taking place every day within the Christian community. Gossip and slander are friendly fire. Both ultimately lead to a questioning of someone’s intentions, motives, character, and heart. There is a reason that speaking about someone is called gossip or slander. By definition, the person who is being gossiped about is the last person to know what people are saying about him or her. Gossip and slander are convenient tools within our culture; a culture bent on thinking of themselves and getting ahead. Sadly, these tools have become commonplace in the Body of Christ as well and in ministry settings. You have probably experienced it for yourself. A person is authentically trying to follow Christ and takes a risk or two and puts themselves out there. Instead of other believers encouraging him or her and pushing each other further out there, his or her brothers and sisters in Christ decide this behavior should stop (mostly because they feel convicted about their lack of action or feel threatened somehow within the “religious community.”). The irony is that they don’t take the application outlined in scripture, but rather begin to question the person to others and then ultimately to the boss, elders, or pastors. See, the biblical application is clear. If you think you should point out a sin in someone else’s life, then you first must inspect yourself in this area. This isn’t to say that you should be perfect, but clearly this shouldn’t be an area you struggle in as well. Then, after considerable amounts of prayer, if the Holy Spirit leads you to speak into the person’s life, then in essence you are signing up to help walk this person through this stronghold, no matter how long it takes. My point, there is a time and a place to point out correction in a brothers or sisters life, but it is reserved for something more serious and it should be out of a true heart of caring more about that person than yourself. In other words, you should already have a relationship with that person, where you have earned the right to speak into their life and you do it gently and with genuine empathy.
The truth is that because we have gotten so good at friendly fire, we don’t even have too many real skirmishes anymore in the United States. On a rare occasion, some believers get excited about following Christ into battle and begin to march toward the battle lines (evangelizing and discipling lost people in their community) and we as brothers and sisters in Christ pick them off before they can even get a good shot off at the enemy. People keep asking me how long will evil continue to prevail in our nation and continue to get stronger? The answer is simple. It is going to continue to prevail and grow until we decide to stop the friendly fire. I have been privileged a handful of times to make it to the front lines of a raging skirmish. It’s intense and even scary at times. You see fellow brothers and sisters getting wounded all around you from shots from the enemy. However, you also see good prevail. You see people coming to know the Lord, you see people being freed from all kinds of oppression, you see lives being transformed right in front of your face, and you see the forces of the enemy pushed back. I have been back in the United States for six months now. When I arrived, I was battle weary. Yet, I will be honest, that feeling is much better than the ones I have felt lately. I have had to witness other brothers and sisters be wounded by friendly fire. A good friend of mine is a full-bird colonel in the Army. This man was not only an incredible soldier, but a great man of God that I would be honored to be in the same company any day. In all of our time together and discussions, there was only one thing I never understood about him. He always was talking about how he longed to go back down range; he longed to be on the front lines of the battle. For the first time in my life, I get it. How I long for a good skirmish, where those who are on the side of the Lord fight together and our wounds are from the enemy and not from each other. Anyone interested?